Life, Liberty (from school) and the Pursuit of Happiness: A Full Update

Last May, I had the excitement of graduating from Northwestern College with a major in Youth and Family Ministry. It was the end of my three years at NWC and was a very bitter-sweet time.

I loved college. I loved residence life. I loved being around students all the time. 

One of my biggest joys was doing youth ministry while doing school. I did this in two very different ways. I was volunteering, and eventually interning, at a local church but was also doing a different kind of youth ministry on campus with the very students I was living and learning with every day. College has people from all different backgrounds, family types and maturity levels—much like a youth group. Being on staff with residence life, I interacted with many students for many reasons on a weekly basis. 

I loved working on campus! I wouldn't trade it for anything. Living on campus as a senior? Not a problem. I have never been one to have a ton of close friends; I love meeting people and am very genuine in that—but I really desire to get to know a smaller group of people intimately. I found that group on campus, but more importantly I lived with my best friend for three years. I was set. 

Upon graduation, things changed rapidly:

—My best friend got married to a wonderful woman, who has become another one of my best friends. They are wonderful people and have continued to be an encouragement to me throughout the months since moving across the metro. (Living with me has something to do with marriage, as two of my other roommates and good friends got married shortly after leaving my room!)

—I moved into a full time hours at work, before actually moving into a full time position at the Geek Squad. I love my job. If you you've spent any amount of time with me you know my passion for technology. I have a watch that syncs with my phone to control the music across the room. My discount from working at the largest technology retail chain doesn't help! It has been really fun to work daily with the same group of people, and really get to know them better. School takes up so much time and energy, that I feel that I was missing out on getting to know who my coworkers were from not being fully present. That has changed, and I love going to work to do life with the people I now spend most of my time with.

—I worked at my church for internship credit. Part of the program with most all majors at NWC was to have 200+ hours of active time in your field. I was fortunate enough to intern where I have been volunteering for some time.

These students have been my life! I love working with high school students and trying to help them figure out who this Jesus is and what it means for their lives right now. They have been a blessing on me. As anyone who has worked with students will know, they are ministering to you in a very active was as well!

Shortly after graduation, the relationship that I had built with the staff at church provided me with an opportunity I could not have imagined. 

The junior high pastor needed a leave of absence for several months and I was asked to fill in his place. A very unexpected journey as I had not imagined leading a youth group so shortly after graduation. Although I have not thought I wanted to teach junior high, I've learned that the Lord likes to make you uncomfortable to grow more in Him. I accepted the position as Interim Junior High Pastor, got my keys and was leading Sunday School, Wednesday night program, and events within the next week! I was asked to serve for three months, ending February 1, just a few days ago.

I loved every bit of it. Although it was not a full pastoral position, as I worked closely with the actual pastor for event planning and logistics, I was teaching twice a week and having tons of fun hanging out and really getting to know the students. All the while still volunteering with the senior high another day of the week!

I learned so much from this time of teaching and developing students, things that I didn't even know I needed to learn. I was blessed beyond words for the opportunity to teach and lead and can only hope to continue to work with these students throughout the school year. The students that really took me in, and were willing to give me the time of day blessed me very deeply. I had a core group of students that came to everything that I could plan, and I appreciate their excitement and acceptance.

Although my time is done being "in charge" I have asked the senior pastor to stay on as some unofficial student ministries associate, so that I can really invest in the students; both junior and senior high. If I could quit retail today, and move into ministry full time I would. Financials and common sense will currently not allow that, but I am excited to see where the Lord is taking me.

He clearly has set youth ministry in front of me, and is showing me just enough that I can continue in that path He is leading me on. Following in faith is not hard. Following in faith implies 'following without question' which I can honestly say is one of the most difficult things to do.

The past three months have made it clear to me that I have followed the Lord thus far. It makes me so happy and overjoyed to be doing active ministry and am excited where He will lead me over the next three months! 

If you read all of this, you are a champion — Blessings on your day!

MB

Don't Take A Spiritual Spring Break!

This year is the first year that I took a spring break without any specific plans. Not only did I have ten days off of school, but I also took that time off of work; my girlfriend was out of town and most everyone on campus (where I was staying) had left for the vacation. It was an actual vacation, a time to relax and get recharged. 

Of course, I slept in late and stayed up late. Watched entire seasons of shows on Netflix and had Chipolte three days in a row. I didn't go anywhere further then the airport. I didn't look at my assignments until Sunday. I really did take a vacation from the expectations and priories that were on me. 

Getting back into the swing of things has been fine, I didn't completely check out so that I couldn't snap back to it, but one class has really challenged me today with a question. The question is very simple, yet convicting:

While going somewhere warm, or skiing or just sleeping during break is fun and maybe relaxing, how do you recharge spiritually? What is you pattern? What is your struggle with it?

Being on break from "everyday" life doesn't mean that you relax or take a break from your spiritual walk with Christ. Unlike sports, intellect, or Settlers of Catan none of us can claim an innate spiritual advantage. We are all equally disadvantaged! None of us seek God naturally; no one does good inherently. [Romans 3:9-18] We need to be crazy intentional, developing ourselves in Him daily, never taking time off from God. Being married doesn't mean you have to talk with your spouse or ever go home—but a lot is going to suffer if you don't intentionally make time. So is our relationship with the Lord God, intentional and consistant. (Adapted from R. Kent Hughes Disciplines of a Godly Man)

How much more do we need to be disciplined in what we are doing to stay connected to God, when we drop other responsibilities or expectations on vacation?

I recharge spiritually by giving ample time to read through devotions. However, that's a lot harder then it sounds—even while having a week of free time! My struggle is getting past the exciting things to do amidst the day like Netflix, Xbox and Board-games. I sometimes don't want to want to read the Word and commune with God. I think that it isn't exciting enough, or feel that it's something I have to do. Fortuity God has a passionate pursuit for us and will not let me stay in this attitude. When I do 'give in' and read the Word and start to commune with an honest heart, I am encouraged to continue in that, to develop the want to continue! 

I am blessed to have several people that I meet with regularly and are going through books together. This has helped develop a pattern of consistency. Through these times, I know that someone else is reading the same thing that I am and if I do not keep my end I'll be embarrassed and let down the person I've committed to reading with!

Day by day is different, but knowing when during the day I will make time with God is important. College does not allow for a high level of consistency in your schedule but making time, making margin, for the Lord is crucial. And don't I know it!

Don't let yourself take spring breaks from your spiritual walk, we cannot afford to do it! 

How Should We Respond

A friend of mine blogged regarding the football game that just happened, and the OREO response during the power outage. What is much less known is that tide also sent a graphic during the power outage on twitter which got very little response compared to OREO's.

Take a look:

My first reaction to the OREO advertisement was a good chuckle and a bit of respect for the quick response among the multitude of tweets that happened during the blackout of the Super Bowl™.  Tide was only minutes behind OREO, but their ad wasn't mentioned with the people I spent the big game with. Their response doesn't really make sense. I understand that Tide removes stains, but what does "get my blackout" even mean?

Tide and OREO both recognized that the situation that they could advertise to around 111.3 million people (2012 estimate) with a simple 144 character advertisement and it would be "understood" by those people. This was a great advertising move, both logically and logistically. Any buzz that arises around the power outage will now also move conversation to the OREO advertisement. But why not the Tide?

As Christians it is important for us to have the right understanding as we live here. We do not have a choice of living on this earth, as to somewhere else, but we are called to have a different understanding of it. 

Romans 12:2
Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.

Eugene Peterson presents Romans 12:2 in his paraphrase:

Don’t become so well-adjusted to your culture that you fit into it without even thinking. Instead, fix your attention on God. You’ll be changed from the inside out. Readily recognize what he wants from you, and quickly respond to it. Unlike the culture around you, always dragging you down to its level of immaturity, God brings the best out of you, develops well-formed maturity in you.

How do we as Christians respond to the "blackout" times in our culture. When things are buzzing around us, how do we respond? Not only how quickly, but how does what we say or do land on other people? When we do respond is it an OREO statement that causes a lasting experience, or is a Tide statement that may be heard or seen by some but doesn't carry any weight at all?

As a Christian, how are you going to respond to the things around you? 

1 Peter 3:15 says "But in your hearts set apart Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect." 

We need to always be prepared to give answer in a gentle, respectful and effective way.We need to be witnesses in the world through conduct, speech and love. How are you doing? How am I doing; am I the OREO advertisement or Tide? Am I hitting the mark, or missing it?

The Christmas Story (Luke and Matthew)

In case you didn't know, it's Christmas eve today and everyone seems to be in a better mood then the rest of the year. (Everyone but people stuck in lines at a return counter!) As you get together with your families and spend time together, be it for Christmas or not, take in the joy that you have. That being said; this time of the year is not happy and joyful for everyone -- many people are going through tough times; today and tomorrow especially. Let us be thankful for the things we have, and the people that have been, and are here with us to enrich our lives. 

I used to love to receive gifts. I guess that I still do, we all do, but in a very different light then when I was little. Back in the day, I wanted new stuff for me. I wanted to have new toys to play with and eventually break, or lose to the dog. But this year, it's something very different. 

It's not that I don't want gifts, I greatly appreciate gifts from friends and family alike. But that is just it, I appreciate friends and family. The people in my life whom I get to slow down and fellowship with. But why gifts? Who decided that we should give gifts to each other to show our appreciation, love or materialism?

Fortunately, that answer is pretty easy from the Gospel in two ways. Firstly, Christmas is about God's gift to the world caught in sin (Rom 3:23). He sends His only son, Jesus, as a gift to escape the wrath that we deserve (Rom 6:23). Although Jesus may not have been born on December 25th, this is the time of year that we slow down to recognize the importance of this one baby's birthday on the entire world. 

God's gift to the world, all of His creation, was sending His son Jesus, through Mary to be our salvation.

Secondly, in the story of Jesus's birth and first months on the earth. We read in the Scriptures that the Magi travel to the place that He (Jesus) was born bringing gifts of great value to show their reverence in Him and the important person that He was. 

As you give and receive gifts tonight or tomorrow just remember the greatest gift that was and is given freely and openly to everyone who would accept it. The gift of redemption from sin and a chance to know the Lord God personally and intimately. 

Merry Christmas!

This is the story of Jesus as presented in the NIV Bible through the Books of Luke and Matthew:

Luke 2

In those days Caesar Augustus issued a decree that a census should be taken of the entire Roman world. (This was the first census that took place while Quirinius was governor of Syria.) And everyone went to their own town to register.

So Joseph also went up from the town of Nazareth in Galilee to Judea, to Bethlehem the town of David, because he belonged to the house and line of David. He went there to register with Mary, who was pledged to be married to him and was expecting a child. While they were there, the time came for the baby to be born, and she gave births to her firstborn, a son. She wrapped him in cloths and placed him in a manger, because there was no guest room available for them.

And there were shepherds living out in the fields nearby, keeping watch over their flocks at night. An angel of the Lord appeared to them, and the glory of the Lord shone around them, and they were terrified. But the angel said to them, “Do not be afraid. I bring you good news that will cause great joy for all the people. Today in the town of David a Savior has been born to you; he is the Messiah, the Lord. This will be a sign to you: You will find a baby wrapped in cloths and lying in a manger.”

Suddenly a great company of the heavenly host appeared with the angel, praising God and saying,

“Glory to God in the highest heaven,
and on earth peace to those on whom his favor rests.”

When the angels had left them and gone into heaven, the shepherds said to one another, “Let’s go to Bethlehem and see this thing that has happened, which the Lord has told us about.”

So they hurried off and found Mary and Joseph, and the baby, who was lying in the manger.When they had seen him, they spread the word concerning what had been told them about this child, and all who heard it were amazed at what the shepherds said to them. But Mary treasured up all these things and pondered them in her heart. The shepherds returned, glorifying and praising God for all the things they had heard and seen, which were just as they had been told.

Matthew 2 (some time has passed, possibly up to 2 years)

After Jesus was born in Bethlehem in Judea, during the time of King Herod, Magi from the east came to Jerusalem and asked, “Where is the one who has been born king of the Jews? We saw his star when it rose and have come to worship him.”

When King Herod heard this he was disturbed, and all Jerusalem with him. When he had called together all the people’s chief priests and teachers of the law, he asked them where the Messiah was to be born. “In Bethlehem in Judea,” they replied, “for this is what the prophet has written:

“‘But you, Bethlehem, in the land of Judah,
are by no means least among the rulers of Judah;
for out of you will come a ruler
who will shepherd my people Israel.’[b]”

Then Herod called the Magi secretly and found out from them the exact time the star had appeared. He sent them to Bethlehem and said, “Go and search carefully for the child. As soon as you find him, report to me, so that I too may go and worship him.”

After they had heard the king, they went on their way, and the star they had seen when it rose went ahead of them until it stopped over the place where the child was. When they saw the star, they were overjoyed. On coming to the house, they saw the child with his mother Mary, and they bowed down and worshiped him. Then they opened their treasures and presented him with gifts of gold, frankincense and myrrh. And having been warned in a dream not to go back to Herod, they returned to their country by another route.

Heavy

Lots of things in our lives are difficult to move. Mainly because their weight is high enough that it a chore to try and get them anywhere. However, through man's ingenuity we've developed ways of moving heavy objects. Engines to move cars and trucks, cranes and fulcrums to move heavy loads around. Throughout history heavy things have been on the move. 

But what about a heavy heart? 

A heavy heart is hard to explain. It's not a personal heath issue from having too much greasy food, or a heart that has more mass than some other heart. The World English Dictionary defines it as: sad or dejected in spirit or mood. I think this is a good descriptor, but it isn't a complete understanding. 

The Lord has created us with so much depth, it's overwhelming to think about! Take a moment to think of the people closest to you in your life. What different aspects do they bring? How has the Lord gifted those around you to think and behave differently?

I've been gifted with people who process things as much as I do, and those who make quick decisions without over analyzing. People who are overly positive with the best outlook, and those who have a more realistic view of life. 

One friend that I value highly is someone who has an emotional radio of sorts, as if they can 'tune-in' to my life and listen. This friend understands how I am doing without needing to ask, if they do -- I have to be honest because it's already known. This friend has been an encouragement because I know that their heart is heavy when I have something difficult going on in my life.

If someone says they have a heart -- it typically isn't in the most energetic way. I would argue with the dictionary definition of a sad or dejected (depressed) mood. I don't know if I can explain it well, but I think that many of us understand it fully. I would try it as high emotional feeling for the situations and feelings of self or others. In layman's terms it's when a life situation affects you beyond that immediate situation. 

When someone you know goes through a difficult time in life, you feel for them even though you yourself aren't going through the same trial. When you lose someone that is close to you, you feel it in the depth of your heart. One moment you're in a difficult time active and present, the next you're not -- but you constantly feel the struggle. 

If this isn't something that you've experienced I would challenge you to try to understand those close to you in a different way. When you ask a friend how they're doing -- listen! Don't just hear what they are saying but actively listen! Don't be thinking of what to say while they're talking, but listen to the situation that they're going through. Be willing to spend time listening, not just creating conversation. If you ask how someone is doing, be willing to actually find out. 

When I have a heavy heart it is most often for the life situations of those around me. So I have a heavy heart, now what? I don't have a crane or fulcrum to help with that! The most influential and beneficial thing that you can do is pray! 

Philippians 4:6-7 says:
"Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."

Pray about everything and the peace of God will guard your heart, will calm your heart, will ease the load on your heart. Sometimes prayer can be difficult, you don't know what to say or how to address the things on your heart:

Romans 8:26
Likewise the Spirit helps us in our weakness. For we do not know what to pray for as we ought, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words. 

If we have the right attitude, the willingness to listen to others we can bless them through prayer -- whether we know what to say or not. 

Go forward from today with discernment, being willing to listen to your good friends -- should they be ready and willing to share. Not so that you can be weighed down by other's troubles, but to be a witness and encouragement in their life. With an understanding of where your brother is troubled, you can be in prayer lifting them up to our God so that they can understand what the Lord is doing in their life. 

Honest Desperation

Almost a week ago I found a note on the ground. I'm not one to show and tell other people's notes, but I was so moved by this that I feel the need to share.

When you approach the Lord how honest are you? Often times I hold back, I don't want God to know how upset I am. After all, I am supposed to be joyful and keep on the Christian appearance. If you're truly honest with yourself you do get frustrated with God and He already knows that! Your spiritual walk may go up and down, this isn't a bad thing. Sometimes you are not doing well, and you just want to shout at God. Express to Him how you are feeling, work through that while continuing to seek Him and you will be enriched through it.

The following is a true expression of just that. God delights in it. If we could all be this honest with God, think of how He would enrich our relationship with Him.

Let us lift up our hearts and hands to God in heaven.

                                   Lamentations 3:41

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Jesus.

I need Your love. I am lost for words. I am confused. I have no hope in You. My heart feels strained. I feel a burden placed on my soul. I need rest. I need comfort. I'm not happy. My joy is fake. I am desperate for a taste of who You are. One glimmer of a picture or peace from You would mean the world. I know I am trapped and stuck without Your freedom. I am not pure. I find hope in things that aren't You and Your ways. I am hopeless.
      I NEED YOU. 

      I NEED YOUR COMFORT. 

      I NEED TRUTH.

I want to understand who You are and what You have done. I am so selfish. I want so much and yet You give things I don't see. I am desperate to see through Your eyes and see TRUTH and not lies. I need protection from the enemy. I want You and know there should be less of me, but I hold onto my selfish wants.

     DELIVER ME FROM LIES.
I want to worship You freely. I want to be engulfed in  Your love. I want truth. God, I look to You and ask these things and want to trust You. Give me hope. Help me understand who You are. I am desperate to know and love You as my best friend.

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Delight yourself in the LORD; And He will give you the desires of your heart.

Psalm 37:4

If this happens to be your note, and would like it removed 

please shoot me an e-mail and I will remove it immediately. 

Changing Your Perspective

I've stepped up my hours at work through the summer as I have no course work and am currently living only minutes away from work. With my extended time within the store, I've come to notice a lot of things in regards to people, not clients or co-workers but people! 

When you interact with people, you come with tons of presuppositions. The way they look, their body language, the way you're feeling for the day, your patience level or even the place that you are all come into play. What we don't often realize is the subconscious presuppositions that enter into our interactions! 

Think of the opinions that you have had for a really long time. Perhaps they are so natural or strong that you often forget that they are opinions and not fact at all.  How about your personality and upbringing and how that changes the way that you view things. Other people have different life experience that may shape their view points much more differently then yours. 

 When you're going through life, and other people are offering their support how does it feel? If it's something that is close to you, are you prone to take it much more personally? What if a stranger said the same thing as your mother or father, would it carry the same weight? Probably not.

I have been learning to look at other people's perspective that is well outside of my own.Working with the Geek Squad has taught me a lot with perspective. I am good with technology, and I have always been. I say this as a matter of fact and in no bragging way. Sometimes I forget that not everyone is skilled or even comfortable with computers or technology in general. My perspective of a simple computer problem, could be the worst thing that has happened to Willa and Willard since the HyVee shut down! 

If I come at it from my perspective, it's a waste of well spent time and is a problem that is so basic a quick Google could have solved the problem.But what might their perspective look like? Dial-up internet through an outdated AOL means Google takes ten minutes to load, in which the thousands of results would be overwhelming, and anyone they could call is hours away. Well that changes things a little! Suddenly I have more patience for them and the issues that they're having. 

Let's step out of the computer / customer service roles. 

You're getting serious with a significant other and ask for a dear friends advice. He tells you that he always thought you would do better and have someone who was less athletic because of how interested in basket weaving you are. And he is really poor at creating conversation. 

What a jerk! Maybe not--

Let's shift perspective. You asked for their advice. They see that you value their opinion and are seeking it. What this friend thought he was conveying was something along the lines of I really like who you've chosen to become serious with, although I always pegged you for a basket person, this person is a lot more athletic then I realized you to be. And we have nothing in common, so they're really hard to have a conversation with but they get along great with my brother who also loves to play sports! 

With the same words, a totally different message can be conveyed. I'm sure it's happened to you at some point in time! 

When you are dealing with people, think about how your words might change meaning in the process of vibrating through the air. Your disapproval on premarital sex could be a punch in the gut to the person you know little about, or someone they are very close to. A slender friend  telling you how much they love to eat and how much they just had for dinner, when you struggle with body image, had very little to eat and still feel fat! 

When you start to get offended or hurt when you're talking with someone, take a minute and analyze where they are coming from. Perhaps they don't mean it in a rude or offensive way at all, but their view is just very different from yours. When you offend or hurt someone, remember that what you mean to say and how they understand what you are saying might not be the same thing if you are not careful in what you're saying. 

I don't ask you to throw your perspective out the window for every person that you interact with. Simply understand that perspectives change from person to person given everything they know and understand. Be willing to be sensitive (or realize they're not trying to be rude) and better understand the people that you interact with. 

Be patient, show love, and live with less conflict and pain!

Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace. 

Ephesians 4:2-3